Tuesday, January 22nd
Women's 21-Day Fast

Day 18 - Tuesday, Jan. 22nd

MARRIAGE

Thanksgiving

Psalms 136: 1-4
1 O give thanks unto the Lord; for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever. 2 O give thanks unto the God of gods: for his mercy endureth for ever. 3 O give thanks to the Lord of lords: for his mercy endureth for ever. 4 To him who alone doeth great wonders: for his mercy endureth for ever.

Marriages may fall under one of the following four conditions

  1. Marriages that are good and can become better.
  2. Marriages in need of guidance due to one crisis or the other eg financial crisis, infidelity, one infirmity or the other.
  3. Marriages that have experienced so much hurt and pain that it has eroded any joy they ever had.
  4. Marriages under siege caused by a demonic influence.

Whatever state your marriage may be at present, be assured that God is committed to that marriage being established as a praise on the earth. For those of you who are presently single and yet to be married, I trust you would receive understanding through these prayers and already be positioned with an advantage from the food of these prayers by the time you get married.

As we pray today, we will be praying that God will enable us as women and wives to understand the role we play in making our marriages a joy and purposeful.

PRAYER:

  • Thank You that You found me faithful to be married .
  • That You that I am still married regardless of the turbulent times.
  • Thank You for Your blessing upon my marriage.
  • Open your mouth in thanksgiving unto the Lord for the gift of marriage that He has blessed you with.


SONG

Excess Love - Mercy Chinwo


Letting Go Of A Sense Of Entitlement

Mark 14:37 
And He came back and found them sleeping, and He said to Peter, “Simon, are you asleep? Were you unable to keep watch for one hour? 38 Keep [actively] watching and praying so that you do not come into temptation; the spirit is willing, but the body is weak.” 39 He went away again and prayed, saying the same words. 40 And again He came back and found them sleeping, because their eyes were very heavy; and they did not know how to answer Him. 41 He came back a third time and said to them, “Are you still sleeping and resting? Enough [of that]! The hour has come. Look, the Son of Man is being betrayed into the hands of sinners. 42 Get up, let us go. Look, my betrayer is near!”


Jesus was in a critical point concerning the mandate He had coming to the earth - the hour was near and He coveted the prayers of the disciples - but what was their response to His request? They kept sleeping!! How did Jesus react to this attitude? Was he upset? No - because He did not feel entitled to their support. He was not bitter or resentful toward His disciples after they fell asleep when He needed them most. If you want your marriage to thrive, you must learn to express your needs without feeling entitled to your husband meeting them. Let us drop that entitlement attitude (Yes, I know it is easier said than done but don't you think Jesus was entitled to feeling annoyed that His disciples could not pray for Him when He needed them to after all He had done for them?)

Letting go of feeling you are entitled does not mean that you have given up wanting or desiring your husband. There is nothing wrong with the desire to have your husband meet your need for intimacy, spirituality, companionship, sexual fulfilment, financial needs etc. It is the entitlement attitude that needs to be done away with. The entitlement attitude is what brings upset, friction, resentment, and bitterness. There is a way to express your need that produces results. When last did you tell your husband that he must do this and must do that and succeeded? It does not work most times, so let us try the new and living way.


Let us pray:

Ephesians 4:2
With all humility [forsaking self-righteousness], and gentleness [maintaining self-control], with patience, bearing with one another in [unselfish] love.

PRAYER:

  • Father as women we sometimes feel used, mistreated and abused.
  • As women we sometimes feel that the scale is unbalanced and we seem to be giving out much more than our husbands are giving.
  • Father I need Your help to live day by day in my marriage through the joys, hurts and pain.
  • Father teach me how to be gentle and lowly in heart.
  • The women of old learnt to be quiet and their husbands were converted because of their chaste conduct.
  • Father teach me to be outwardly quiet, yet a warrior in my closet.
  • You give undeserved favour to the humble Lord, teach me how to be more like You.
  • Teach me humility, teach me how to be lowly in heart and not think of myself more highly than I ought.
  • Father with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, teach me how to bear with my husband in love.


2 Chronicles 20: 12
O our God, will You not exercise judgment upon them? For we have no might to stand against this great company that is coming against us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are upon You.

Now we want to ask for God to bring justice on all the root causes of conflict, pain and stress in your marriage.

First, you will nerd to withdraw all the judgements you have made against your husband. Take a few moments and whatever you remember you said in judgement against him, write them down because we will pray concerning your spoken words.

PRAYER:

  • Today I bring my marriage through the Blood of Jesus.
  • I come boldly under the righteousness of the blood of Jesus into Your Holy Place.
  • I withdraw all my negative judgements against my husband.
  • I repent of all condemning
  • Father, I repent for my judgements against my husband
  • (Withdraw the negative words you have said in your mind and to anyone else – the judgement against him that you noted at the start of these prayer points, please pray them and allow the Spirit to lead you and bring to remembrance every co damming word you have said.)
  • I thank You for erasing the effects of these negative judgements against my husband.
  • Lord, today I ask for justice for any environmental factors that have caused my husband not to operate as he ought to.
  • I ask for justice on any ill spoken words in the covens of darkness that are standing contrary to whom you designed him to be.
  • I ask for justice on every trauma in his life that has influenced his life negatively.
  • (Ask God to judge the specific situations that are causing pain and stress in your marriage).
  • I receive this ruling against every adversity in my marriage, I receive this ruling against the things that militate against the peace and joy in my home.
  • Now, I take authority over every power that is militating against the peace of my home in the Name of Jesus.
  • I declare any power working against my marriage is beneath my feet.
  • I trample over all such powers, I overcome them in the Name of Jesus.
  • I declare peace in my borders in Jesus Name. Amen.
  • I bless my husband to be the best husband he can be.
  • I bless him to be a loving husband.
  • I bless him to be in our home as Christ is to the church.
  • I choose to work with You not against You.
  • I chose to walk with my husband not against him.


Dealing With Vain Ideologies

Colossians 2:8
“8Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.”

PRAYER:

  • Ask God to show you and your spouse the ideologies that you have held on to which are causing challenges in your marriage are.
  • Ask Him to purge you both of vain ideologies, and traditions rooted in human culture (our customs, traditions, parental influences that have no place in the life of an NT believer) and not Christ.
  • Pray that you will be purged of every thought that has now become a stronghold in your marriage limiting you from entering the fullness of the joy that God had intended for you. 


Hebrews 6:1 
“1Therefore, leaving the discussion of the elementary principles of Christ, let us go on to perfection, not laying again the foundation of repentance from dead works and of faith toward God,”

PRAYER:

  • Father as a praying family we choose to leave mundane discussions and move on to perfection.
  • I lift my marriage above petty quarrels and issues that have no eternal value.
  • I refuse to allow my marriage to follow after the patterns of the world.
  • I draw on the grace that would enable me mature and go on to perfection, I declare that this same grace is at work in my husband.
  • We will not be mere Christians in our marriages.
  • We rise up today as a mature couple growing from faith to faith, glory to glory.
  • We shake off irrelevant discussions we lay hold of eternal life in Jesus Name.
  • Father I choose to put my flesh under, I declare I will no longer be a slave to anger, malice, unfriendliness, rage, selfishness, sin, self-contentedness.
  • I am not a slave to the traditions of men, vain philosophies have no root in me because today I let it go.
  • I choose to learn Christ, I choose the wisdom of Christ for my own marriage.
  • I choose the mind of Christ that renews me and instructs me in alignment with Gods word.
  • I choose to rise above being a mere Christian and be the daughter of Jehovah created in His image and likeness.
  • I pray the same over my husband that he has the grace to shake off irrelevant discussions and to lay hold on eternal life.
  • He puts his flesh under and is no longer a slave to anger, malice, unfriendliness, rage, selfishness, sin, self-contentedness.
  • He (name) is not a slave to the traditions of men, vain philosophies have no root in my husband


I Am Better Than You Syndrome

One of the lies that plague marriages is the notion that "I am better than you".  How do we arrive at that conclusion, what parameters are we using to measure what makes one better than the other? If God has to measure will He use the same lens? Paul said ”10 But whatever I am now, it is all because God poured out his special favor on me—and not without results. For I have worked harder than any of the other apostles; yet it was not I but God who was working through me by his grace. 1 Cor 15:10 NLT.
 

We will address this notion of “I am better than you” pray the same for your husband that God will open his eyes to see that he is not “better” than you and that whatever success he has attained or whatever abilities he may have it is by the grace of God

Romans 7:18,19 
18For I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh [my human nature, my worldliness—my sinful capacity]. For the willingness [to do good] is present in me, but the doing of good is not. 19 For the good that I want to do, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want.

PRAYER:

  • Father, I acknowledge that nothing good is in my flesh, nothing good is in my human nature.
  • I acknowledge I am not better than my husband because I am in the flesh just as he is in the flesh.
  • Father, I have looked at my husband and felt he was inadequate, in certain areas.
  • I have looked at his shortcomings in areas where I felt he could have done better and I have judged him.
  • I have looked at his inadequacies and felt wronged by his inabilities.
  • I have judged my husband as not loving, not friendly, not providing, selfish, wicked, ungodly,  ...... please talk to the Lord about those areas you have judged your husband whether or not the premise was right or wrong.
  • On account of this judgment, my heart towards (name) has been grieved.
  • Father but I look at myself today and judge that there is indeed no one righteous.
  • I also have fallen short of the grace of God, I also have not done right before You.
  • (name) and I am equal before You, both of us have sinned and fallen short of the grace of God.
  • Father help me to see my husband the way You see him.
  • Help me to see that he too was redeemed from the curse of the law.
  • Help me to see that my husband is transforming into the image of Christ just the same way I am being transformed.
  • Purge my heart of all this negativity O God.
  • You are the judge of all, not I - Father purge my heart, purge my heart of every thought that is not right with you in  Jesus Name Amen.

 

Please allow the Lord purge your heart as you stay on this prayer till you know you have dealt with deep roots of pain and hurts 


Designed For Serving

Romans 12:3 
3For by the grace [of God] given to me I say to every one of you not to think more highly of himself [and of his importance and ability] than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has apportioned to each a degree of faith [and a purpose designed for service].

PRAYER:

  • Thank You, Father, for the grace given to me to be wife to my husband.
  • Thank You Father for the grace to do the things I have been able to do in my marriage.
  • Help me, Father, not to think of myself more highly than I ought to because You gave me the grace to do what I do.
  • Help me not to disdain my husband because he cannot do the things that I do or the things I expect him to do.
  • Help me to love him from my heart completely just as he is.
  • Help me by Your grace to serve my family with love immeasurable.
  • Father teach me how to love honor and respect my husband even when everything in my flesh is saying I should not love honor and respect him.
  • Teach me how to have a right heart attitude that is pleasing to you.
  • Teach me not to be conceited.
  • Teach me wisdom in relating with my husband.
  • I take authority over every power that is militating against the peace of my home in the Name of Jesus.
  • I declare any power working against my marriage is beneath my feet.
  • I trample over all such powers, I overcome them in the Name of Jesus.
  • I declare peace in my borders in Jesus Name Amen


Declarations

  • I declare my marriage blessed.
  • I declare there is no enchantment against my marriage neither shall divination prosper.
  • I declare God is in the midst of us, His glory shields us round about.
  • I declare wholeness and completeness in my marriage.
  • I speak peace, I declare nothing is missing nothing is broken.
  • I declare sickness and disease are far from our borders.
  • What God has not planted in my marriage cannot stay.
  • God is our defense, He is our shield and our buckler, He is our strong tower.
  • I declare all needs are met in my marriage, there is no lack of grain, God is supplying all our needs according to His riches.
  • I declare all things in every realm are under our feet and we live victorious lives ....continue as led by the Spirit.
  • I declare our marriages blessed in Jesus name, Amen.


SONG

Miracle Rain - Frank Edwards


Declaration for Nigeria
 

Psalm 2:10-11
10 Be wise now, therefore, O ye kings: be instructed, ye judges of the earth.11 Serve the Lord with fear, and rejoice with trembling. 

  • We declare a new Nigeria full of God's glory and favor in 2019 election and beyond in Jesus name, Amen.



“Command Your Year

 Romans 8:37
“Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors and gain an overwhelming victory through Him who loved us [so much that He died for us].”(AMP)

This year, I will conquer and emerge from every cave of insecurity and shortcoming that have been limiting me to become a household name in this generation and beyond, in Jesus name, Amen!

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